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Finding balance in such a fast paced and changing time is one of the most important things you must take in order to succeed. In a lot of cases, it is looking for a needle in a haystack.
Most women have so much to do that they find themselves multi-tasking. In the process they get more and more adept in achieving several tasks. However, they soon find themselves frazzled, irritable, stressed or even burnt out.

I have put together 7, P’s that you can always apply to your life to find that place of balance in your busy life. This applies to you whether you are a career woman, a mother, a daughter, wife, partner, in business, or in ministry.

PRESENT
One of the most powerful lessons learnt from the most successful but busy people is THE POWER OF BEING PRESENT.
Being present to carry out the present activities gives you power in the present and for hope for the future. Always remember to capture the beauty of the moment even in your most busiest times.
The other angle is that worrying about the future will rob you of your today joy. So learn to be present. The other name for a gift is PRESENT! One of the priceless gifts to give yourself is to be PRESENT.

PLANNING:
This has been handled most efficiently by some of the worlds’s greatest Business Coaches. However, this is missed a lot of times unintentionally due to the busyness of modern day living.
Brian Tracy in his life-changing book: Goals!, reminds us that Prior Planning Prevents Poor Performance. Many times, we think, we do not have time to plan. But the truth is, anything that is important we do have time to plan. For example, a vacation.
Oh yes, we plan to the minute detail. Why? Its important and its costing us money. Why again, we do not want to find ourselves stressed up from forgetting an important aspect such as our misplaced passport or not booking a taxi from the airport. Such mistakes would cost us quite some stress. Even so, a business, a marriage, a family, financial future, a career, a baby etc should be plan for. Life must be planned, so that we can handle big and small interruptions enroute to our goals and eventually our dreams
“Action without planning is the cause of every failure”~ Alec Mackenzie
The process of planning is the most important part of planning. Most times your plans might not work but you will grow, evolve and become that woman of substance for the task.

PS: The 5 more P’s will be outlayed here, so please be on the look out.

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Until then, much love!

Enomfon Ntefon
Stress Freedom Expert

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It is said a mum’s job never ends! How true!
We have finished celebrating Mother’s Day and mum’s job continues.
I believe the best approach to parenting is to see it as a partnership with God.
If there is a reward for such a tough job. Who is gonna give it?
If not God who?
We are not debating here but we are looking at the realities of a mum’s never-ending job.
We are also looking at how best we can do it with hope, joy and great expectation!

Parenting might be a a real tough job but it is a partnership. It is a joint venture.
Raising dependant children to become dependable and responsible adults…
Grooming the next generation…bequeathing an eternal legacy…
That is pure Motherhood.
Keep on mum!
I am with you!!

Enomfon Ntefon
Family Stress Freedom Expert
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“There ain’t much fun in medicine, but there’s a heck of a lot of medicine in fun.” Josh Billings

Your body manufactures chemicals based on certain needs and then distributes them throughout your body. When you laugh, you generate a wealth of healing bio chemicals.
Laughter reduces at least four hormones associated with the stress response – epinephrine, cortisol, dopac, and growth hormone. In other words, you can create the moods that you want!
Good news for women that have mood swings from hormonal fluctuations!
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Dreams are like STARS, you cannot touch them. But if you follow them they will lead you to your own DESTINY!

“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievement” Napoleon Hill

What is your dream? Some mums have no more time to dream with the girlish excitement they once had. They believe wrongly that they have no more inner strength to activate their dreams.
If you look at the circumstances around, you will conclude that time is running out and you are late in achieving your dreams.
Do you believe age is no longer on our side?
Do you sometimes “feel” the resentment of having to look after our children while our dreams fell off the back burner?
If you keep looking at life from that stand- point of depleted energy, limited time, unfavourable situations and resources you may soon get depressed. Your perspective is sapping the remaining energy you have left.

Is it a childhood dream? Is it a dream borne out of seeing a problem or a need? Is it a strong desire to see a change in the government? Is it an innovation that would bring a solution to a current crisis?
What tugs a string on your passion? What makes you cry when it happens? What are you happy about when it is solved? What do you strongly desire or want to do, whether you get paid directly or not? This can give you a great clue to your dream.

Its time to follow your own DREAM and not another’s.
Look Out For My New Book: Winning Mum! How To Stop The Stress And Live Out Your Dream. You are in for a winning life with this book!

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COMPLIMENTS WILL GET YOUR TEAM TO THE MOON FASTER
Destructive criticism is the fastest way to lose your child and of course, the team spirit. Children believe you all the way. If you say they are stupid, they will always believe they always are. At school, in front of colleagues, during a business presentation, that script will essentially run their lives like an unseen hardware and will influence the results they will have.
Your child’s self-esteem must never be sacrificed on the altar of correction or your anger.

That self-esteem is the backbone of their emotional skeletal system. If it is broken through consistent destructive criticism it could maim their productivity for life.
Dr James Dobson, a foremost America’s Family Advocate and Premier President of Focus on Family says that the aim of disciplining children should always be to shape the will and never to break the spirit. Constructive criticism builds the child. There are words that should be used and there are words that must never be used.
Dorothy Noltie has a great poem for us here that should guide us into this area:
“If a child lives with criticism
He learns to condemn
If a child lives with hostility
He learns to fight
If a child lives with ridicule
He learns to be shy
If a child lives with shame
He learns to feel guilty
If a child lives with tolerance
He learns to be patient
If a child lives with encouragement
He learns confidence
If a child lives with praise
He learns to appreciate
If a child lives with fairness
He learns justice
If a child lives with security
He learns to have faith
If a child lives with approval
He learns to love himself
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship
He learns to find love in the world”
What do you live with?
WINNING IS AN OUTCOME OF THE GAME PLAYED BY THE RULES
Every sport has its rules. I do not play football but I know that there are rules that govern that game. If any of the rules are broken it affects the game negatively.
It is sad to note that some parents do not believe that children should live by rules. Imagine a society without rules, driving a car without brakes, a school without rules and regulations or business transactions without terms and conditions? Human beings need boundaries or danger will soon be imminent.
Another point here is, when a family is seen as a team players it is an easier job to win. More so, because every team member will understands his or her role in the overall success of the team. Again, we need to remember that the team is as strong as its weakest link. And that is why training must be applied at home to build in a mind-set, a structure and a system for success in children. If this does not happen a home will be run on a default basis.
Raw unbridled emotions of anger, moodiness, disrespect, selfishness, will ruin any game or family. But with adequate, proper and updated training this will be eliminated to a greater extend while every member of the team is reminded consistently of the main objective which is to WIN AS A TEAM!
As grows your Dream, so grow your Team, Mum!

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Worry again is learnt. Most times from parents as you grew up. There are problems that we cannot solve and we have to understand that. And worrying about them will not even solve them.
Jesus said, which of you by worrying can add a span of cubit to your life-span…?
When we worry about what can be we are robbing today’s peace with tomorrow’s problems. And the chances of that becoming a problem is a 4 percent chance.
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According to research,
90% of of all women will have sole responsibility for their finances within their lifetimes…yet 79% of all women have not planned for this.
Kim Kiyosaki wife of Robert Kiyosaki and author of Rich Woman, discovered some startling statitics:

Of the elderly living in poverty:
-3 out of 4 are women
-80% of the women were not poor when their husbands were alive.
-Approximately 7 out of 10 women will at some point live in poverty.
What are these statistics telling us? They tell us that more and more women, especially as they become older, are not educated or prepared to take care of themselves financially. We’ve spent our entire lives taking care of our families but have no ability to care for ourselves in this vital way.

A report from a recent edition of Independent, UK, cites these statistics
“… the sign of the increasing marital pressures, the number of cases citing financial problems as a factor in their divorce has more than doubled in the past two years – from 13 to 27 per cent”

We get over 14,000 hours of education and yet no practical money skills.
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Its 7 days( a week into the new year and many have already gone into a panic mode. The year is only a week old! However all the information on planning, goal-setting, and living your dream now, has given them the back hand. And they feel they have “not yet achieved and the world is moving on!” If you have not really set the goals, cleared out the clutter, gotton organized, do not panic. Got some help here. But I wish to add if it is my personality type too. We want to get everything done yesterday. We wish we were a not a minute late and things are done according to plan.
I keep having to learn that this is totally unrealistic. I must enjoy the flowers. I must dance to the music, enroute my dream fufillfilment. How about you?
Here are some very powerful information that will enhance you dreaming again:
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This is the time of the year I discovered I shout a bit more and I just realised I am around the children a bit more. And I actually looked forward to this time as I would be with them. Well, just so that you understand where I am going with this; I just went upstairs to stop my son from drumming the empty cookies tin. And when I asked him why he was making such noise, he chipped, “I am bored”. Anyone heard this before? Read the rest of this entry

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